The world seems to have changed a lot and may continue to change.
One of the changes that has been going on for decades and before many of us were born are the changing gender roles.
Whereas I had previously learned that women could not get by in society in the past unless they disguised themselves as a man and used a mans name, it seems that women’s liberation has strengthened the position of women.
Feminism gave women rights to work and vote and be outside more and perhaps even to dress less.
This may have threatened the traditional bread winner role for men.
Men have traditionally been the care takers of women.
They have been the ones to look after women and tell her what to do and what not to.
He went to work and provided for his wife and the family while women stayed at home.
Men had much more authority.
They were also hero’s and saviours of women at times.
Fairy tales all told us that a woman was rescued by a hero who she usually ended up marrying.
Men would fight wars and they would also make a great effort to get the affections and acceptance of a particular woman they wanted.
Women would not accept a man easily and often a man would have to earn her attention by writing poetry and doing things for her.
How times have changed.
I remember the song I used to hear, and still at times hear being played on various occasions: “no more hero’s any more...” whoever sung it repeated it so many times we got the message.
As women nowadays are there any hero’s ready to save us?
Many feminists would argue that we no longer need that.
In fact, the traditional courtesy of opening doors for women or standing up for them on buses and trains has often been attacked by feminists as masochistic.
Women can stand and open doors by themselves it is argued.
Therefore, is there much men are able to do without causing offense or a backlash?
However, while from a woman’s perspective it seems that women are lacking the traditional hero, or even the man in many cases, I wanted to consider the mans perspective.
Men in our times seem to feel threatened by women.
In fact, I have heard men say – or admit – that they get scared quite easily.
Women going out to work and doing their work for them, as well as continuing with traditional female roles has made some men lazy.
Men – most anyway – do not help with housework when a woman works. Therefore, she has more work to do.
Men have less to worry about now since women also contribute to providing for a family.
Many women go after men themselves, so the man does not even have to do that.
This is all against the nature of men who enjoy challenges and feeling that they are important and have achieved something.
At the same time many men may be feeling they have lost their authority over women who are now trying to compete with their husbands.
The wife he would come home to for comfort, feeding and being looked after is now working a long side him. She might not be home when he returns.
She may have other commitments and priorities other than family.
He may come home to no food on the table.
He has to put up with this while at the same time he knows that his wife will most likely win a court battle and take custody of the kids in case of a divorce.
If he hits a wife - or any woman – he can be sentenced and will treated harshly.
It will be her word against his.
While women may go out wearing whatever they want – and not wearing what ever they want – men have the difficult time of being threatened by the female body but at the same time they are not supposed to react to that.
They can be blamed for looking.
They certainly should not touch.
Often in claims of rape or abuse the woman is believed and seen as the “victim,” and the man to be the only bad one.
However, there are women who lie to get men into trouble and to make money.
While I am against all kinds of abuse against women and being beaten, raped or molested is a crime that should be taken seriously, so too should false claims against men be noticed.
While I cannot accuse any particular person of lying and really do not know enough about Prince Andrew and the alleged “victim” to comment, there are issues that do not seem right in the case.
In reality, the problem with the case of Prince Andrew is that he has not been treated to a fair and balanced trial before having the title of paedophile attached to him.
This name was attached to him straight away when he was accused, although the law says that a person is innocent until proven guilty.
Nothing has been proven yet.
What if he is innocent?
Will the stigma and title ever go away?
In fact, there are some problems with these accusations.
I mean the woman was seventeen years old apparently, which is a young woman not a child.
In many countries women marry at seventeen.
Even in UK it is allowed for a woman to marry at sixteen with her parents permission and eighteen without.
We see and know that women of seventeen and younger can have children, even as young as thirteen.
This means she was not a child. She was a young woman.
For this reason the claim of “paedophile,” is wrong from the beginning.
Another question that has to be asked is why this woman is making this claim now when she did not say anything before?
It is quite suspicious that someone would go for many years knowing about a violation of their rights without saying anything. Why at this time?
It certainly does not seem that she was being silenced or could not speak before.
If there was any relationship between her and Prince Andrew how do we know she was not consenting to that?
I mean, in the pictures we see her with him she is smiling and they look close.
Maybe there was nothing. Or perhaps, there was something, which she has later blown up into a larger story.
I mean for a seventeen year old American girl is it not something normal to have or consider a relationship?
Of course, not all girls are the same but there are many who begin and have relationships before that time.
Why would she be smiling and looking comfortable in the photo with him if she was being forced to do things she did not want?
What is more is that she is making a lot of money out of these claims apparently.
Perhaps if she wins the case – which seems to be what the media is encouraging she will make more money.
So is her motive money?
It is said she will continue the case regardless of if he gives her a settlement or not.
Or is there a more sinister plot going on from behind the monarchy to overthrow it?
I mean, is it really a coincidence that these claims came out around a similar time to Prince Harry and his wife leaving the monarchy claiming racism.
They also seem to be doing anything and everything to gain money and fame, including selling stories.
Therefore, there seems to be a link here.
Several people gaining money and fame while defaming the royal family.
The racism claims have been largely excepted as not true.
Perhaps time will reveal that the paedophile accusations were also untrue.
Maybe it is a plot from the BBC man who hates the monarchy. Or maybe someone else.
However, being a man, will Prince Andrew ever be able to shake off the title of “paedophile,” even if innocent?
He has now already been stripped of his HM title even though not found guilty.
So this is how modern men have become victims in many ways to women. Prince Andrew and many other men have a very hard time trying to prove their innocence against claims and sometimes lies of women.
How do I know that women lie?
I have heard of several stories whereupon women have lied in the courts and claimed that a man raped them when he did not.
One mother told me how she knew her son was innocent and had not raped a girl but he pleaded guilty in the court and went to prison as he did not see the point to deny it.
It seemed that he had no hope of winning the case so just confessed to doing what he did not do.
I also knew a man who told me that when he became ill with manic depression his wife lied in the court and said that he had threatened to kill his daughter to send her to heaven. He was Muslim
Thereafter he was never allowed to be alone with the daughter and could only see her every two weeks in a contact centre.
So this is a method that some women resort to in order to maintain custody of children in cases of divorce.
I think this is something very difficult for men and they no longer have so much power or authority over women to keep their reputation. It is unfortunately, her word against his.
Woman can shout, cry, scream and do whatever they want. It is accepted of them.
They can wear what they want and can get away with most things.
Men, unfortunately, are not accepted to cry, shout, hit out, wear overly flamboyant clothes, throw tantrums and do all that women get away with.
Instead of being looked up to as potential hero’s and saviours they are often seen as potential – or even present – villains.
Therefore, I think it is not such a major wonder to perceive why men might feel depressed sad, anxious and without purpose.
They are often not given the chance – or acceptance to make high intentioned purposes and be the winner and saviour in our times.
Maybe this is why we find some men fighting for their human right to be women.
Or at least not to known as a man.
Other men refuse women altogether and have turned in on themselves.
Yet others are just watered down – or feminine versions – of men.
Others are called mice, rats, chickens and so forth.
Therefore, I think that feminism has not helped women’s rights – if women want the right to a good husband.
Perhaps there is a need for the recognition of mans right – the right to be a man and have authority in the home and society, and to be a hero and role model for others.
Or maybe we only need human rights without putting one gender before the other.
In Islam, men have rights especially in the home which include authority since it is from the basic nature of a man.
A woman has rights that are suitable to her nature as a woman and a wife.
When people adhere to their intrinsic nature and disposition it makes society more balanced and fair than rights for one against the other.
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