Late to marry or just on time?

It is strange sometimes that people assume you are late to marry when you reach a certain age. Others are considered early to marry because they got married before the marriage age somehow. I wonder then what the right age for marriage is. In reality we see peoole getting married at all different ages. So is there really an age of marriage or a right age? Generally speaking most people seem to hold the age of marrige to be from the age of about 20-40. However, there are people for marry before and after that. There are people who marry from about the age of fourteen or fifteen and there are men and women who still continue to marry until about sixty. Yet people are still called early to get married until the age of 25. People who marry after thirty are often told they are late. Once a woman gets to forty she is often told that she will never marry now, although men are allowed another twenty years. Not only does this seem quite illogical, even unfair, it also does not give people much time to actually marry. So the only true marital time is late twenties? In fact who put this deadline in place? I also wonder who decides that some one should not get married after a certain age. Is it not within their God given rights to marry at whatever age they choose? So is there really a deadline for getting married? Well, I guess biologically a person has until the time they feel that they are no longer capable of creating a family or that they no longer feel anything towards another gender. Socially they have until people convince them that they are too late and it is no longer possible. This unfortunately happens to women who have many years ahead of them. at 35 they could have another fifty or more years ahead of them. So is right to make up such rules? According to common sense, people should be allowed to marry while they feel able to fulfil the rights of marriage and possibly have children. Islam, the Quran and the authentic sources also do not have age restrictions on marriage. There are no early or late people. People get married when they feel ready and able to begin a family. Some people feel ready at a younger age, and some at an older age. In fact, the only time a person is alluded to being past the age of married in Quran is when women are mentioned as having no desire for men and men having no desire for them. They have despaired of marriage. When I asked a teacher what age this was referring to he replied that it is no particular age. When a woman feels no man will consider her and she feels nothing towards men and no desire for marriage, then it is that age. Some commentators have said it refers to women who are no longer child bearing age and dont have children. However, in the past, that was often referring to women over sixty. Women now seem to be earlier, many being around age fifty. Still, whether at fifty or sixty, the Quran does not place an age. The issue is with the woman herself, how she percieves herself or feels. Is is certainly not referring to women (or men) in their thirties and forties. Is delaying marriage something bad? In the above video a woman met her husband at 48 and still went on to have a daughter at 53. She says how having a family later made her more appreciative and grateful. Although people panic when they think that they or their daughter is late to marry, at times a delayed marriage may be beneficial. Perhaps, like the scholars in the past, a person can finish an education and gain important knowledge to help in raising a family. A person may be more mature and wise and better able to look after and support raising a family. Some people report feeling more grateful when finding their life partner after a long wait and and less likely to take them for granted. People with more life experience may make better decisions and so a life partner that will remain with them and with whom they will be happy with. Therefore, the age of people when they marry is not the important factor but rather feeling ready and choosing a partner who thry really want to be with. In fact, when looking at the Quran there seem to be many righteous people who were made to wait before beginning a family. Hana, the mother of Mary peace be upon her, had apparently reached an age in which she despaired of having children. When she prayed and asked Allah she was given Mary peace be upon her. Zakariah was also made to wait and when he prayed and asked Allah his hair was white and he was old. His barren wife bore him a son, Harun, at that time. Peace be upon them. Abraham did not have children with his wife Sara until he was at least 100 and she was eighty. These were miracles, but they teach us something: it is never too late and Allah can grant blessings and family to whoever he wants and whenever He chooses. In fact, the Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him was Said to have been late to marry in that time. He was twenty five and normally young men of that age would have been married in that time. For this reason Khadijah asked him why he had not married until then and was it due to lack of money. Therefore, although it is perhaps better, if someone is able to marry and finds someone suitable, to marry earlier. If not, then perhaps there is something better for you coming some time in the future. There is no deadline and no age of despair. Like the people mentioned above, the best way to deal with this is through prayer and asking Allah. We ask that He gives you what is good in this life and the hereafter.